Have you ever wonder what you should do to be successful? Or are you not satisfied with your life now?
I'm reading a book called "How to get from where you are to where you want to be" by Jack Canfield. Although I heard the idea 6 years ago, reading this book is reminding me the insight again and hence inspired me again, after 6 years, with a more open heart.
6 years back when I was in A-levels, I read a book called "Study smart, not hard". It suggested readers to close the eyes, meditate, and visualise the future you desire. Think of beautiful, happy and good stuff. Think of you being successful, respected, rich, healthy and happy. Think of the big house you want to own, the Mercedes you want to drive, the big corporate you want to own. And you will get what you want. I was very close-minded that time. The moment I read this idea, I threw the book aside and never touch the book again because I thought it's a bunch of bullshit. Because I think visualising things is not going to get us anywhere. I only belief that only the real action is.
Maybe I didn't finish the book. Maybe after that chapter that book is going to teach people how to strive for the visual dream we created. I should have finish that book.
Nevermind. The same idea approached me again through Law of Attraction. And from this law, I earned some encouragement. Or maybe I should call it insight instead of encouragement. I finally able to pick up the determination to motivate myself to stop myself from being depressed. So, I bought this new book, to motivate myself. This "How to get from where you are to where you want to be" book.
Maybe most people already know this idea. But I'm sure there are still many people who are lost and don't know where we should head to. This post is specially dedicated to those of you who feel this way. Hope this post can motivate you or at least cease your depression because I understand the feeling, the I-want-to-give-up-everything feeling. Although sometimes I still have the low self-esteem on and off now, and got myself in dilemma again, I force myself to think positive. Because thinking positive can raise our self-esteem and we will then feel good about ourselves no matter how bad the situation had become.
Think positive!
This is what Law of Attraction suggests.
The "How to" book also suggested similar idea but in a different way. It says Believe in yourself! Those who win are those who think they can. So, this also means we should be in positive mode. Then only we can believe we can, right? =)
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According to the "How to" book, 99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses. So, stop blaming and stop complaining. You take full responsibility on what had happen to your life. If your life sucks, it's your fault. Not any one else's. Why? Because, everything you experience today is the result of choices you have made in the past. What happen to your life is mainly affected by 3 things: your actions, your thoughts and the images you visualise.
If you think negative, you life will screw up.
If you can only imagine bad things ahead, bad things will come to you.
If you laze around, you know what's gonna happen next.
So your life is like shit? What should you do now then? Identify what have you been doing wrong that has caused this. And then stop this habit! If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got. Step out of your comfort zone. It's up to you to make the change, to do something different.
It is hard at first because it requires strong determination and discipline. And in order to try whether making the change can work, you must be willing to take the risks.
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Everyone must have a fixed dream in mind. What you want your future to be like? Visualise it in your mind as detailed as it can be. Close your eyes and picture these in your head:
In the future....
1. Your income. How much money you wanna have?
2. Your home. The colours of the walls, the furnitures, the yard, your rooms, any swimming pools? And etc..
3. What kind of car you driving
4. Your ideal job. Where are you working? Working as what? With who? Is it your own business?
5. Your recreational time. What you do during your free time? With friends? Or family?
6. Your ideal health condition. Are you healthy? How long do you live to? Are you energetic?
7. Ideal relationship with family and friends. How is the relationship with family? And with friends? What kind of things do you do together?
8. Self improvement. Are you taking some course? Like some art classes or get back to school or attending workshops? Do you want to travel to other countries?
9. The community you live in. What community you live with? Do you join the community activities? Do you volunteer in charity? Who are you helping? How often do you participate in these activities?
Clarify your vision of your ideal life. Write down and clearly picture these in your mind everyday so that you can focus on your vision.
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And don't limit your dreams. Dream big. And then belief that anything is possible, so does your dream. Don't ever doubt your dreams. Don't go "I dun think my dream is gonna happen coz it's just too unrealistic." If you think it is possible, then your subconscious mind will allow yourself to work towards it no matter how hard it is. If you think it is impossible, then your subconscious mind will give up and you will have no motivation to strive towards your dream. Then your dream will never happen. In order to make yourself think that your dream is possible, you must belief in yourself. Believe that you are capable to make this dream come true. Don't waste your time believing you can't.
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Oh ya. By the way, don't be ashamed of your big dream. People won't laugh at your dream, and they shouldn't. If your friend says your dream is too unrealistic, you should feel sorry for them because they don't dream big and they don't have the set of mind that can belief that anything can be made possible. If your friends also dream big, they won't think your dream is stupid or too unrealistic.
That's all for today. hehe. Coz I actually haven't finish reading this book. Got something else to settle lately. Otherwise I can finish this book in one day. lol.
p/s: I'm gonna go dig out the "Study smarter, not harder" book when I go back hometown.
p/p/s: I wanna thank my mum, Hao Wei, Adam and Chung Ming for giving me solid advice which gave me the motivation to walk out from depression. Wanna thank also Heng, my dad, my 2 aunties who worried and cared about me and willing to be there for me when I was depressed. Thanks Zhuang and Choo Peng who threw me a lot of questions allowing me to find my dream. And also wanna thank those who are willing to listen to my troubles: Audrey, Ley Hian, Val and Chee Hui. Without you all I can't find my way out from the dark depression.
Should have swim further with Steven. I regretted.
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